Just sat here, thinking about my life in general, and the things I would change if I could turn the clock back.
My biggest regret was when my crewmate on the patrol car found out he had a brain tumour. Not only a friend at work, but off duty also, He knew he wasnt going to live, and I visited him just once in Hospital, as I wanted to remember him as he was, and not what he was turning in to.
Had I the chance again, I would have sat by his bedside until the last breath.
What would you change or have regrets about?.
Jim.
Lincoln .7
By: EGTC - 15th April 2012 at 12:35
EGTC. how many times could we say, “If only?”.
Jim.
Lincoln .7
Yeah, sad eh. Trouble is none of us can turn back time.
By: ppp - 15th April 2012 at 12:10
It’s better to think of what you can do, than what you should have done, else you’ll be thinking in the future “well I wish I had done X instead of thinking about what I did wrong before then” 🙂
And yes, I take my own advice 😎
By: Lincoln 7 - 14th April 2012 at 22:02
EGTC. how many times could we say, “If only?”.
Jim.
Lincoln .7
By: Lincoln 7 - 14th April 2012 at 22:00
TonyT.. Hi Tony, I am pleased to know that at least 3 of us out of what, 20.000 odd can say we have done something that has made us think twice. No suitable smiley for things like these is there?.
Jim.
Lincoln .7
By: TonyT - 14th April 2012 at 17:13
Oddly enough my Brother in law died of Cancer, the last time I saw him was a Christmas, we always used to go out then on the beer for a reunion, the last time I saw him was laughing and joking as he climbed into the car… He did not want me to see him as he deteriorated and lived over 200 miles away… When he went I asked my Sister if I could give the Funeral a miss as I wanted to remember him as I last saw him, happy smiling and half cut, she was happy for me to do that, so I was the only member of the family not to go…. Oddly enough I am happy I didn’t, as it is in a strange way as if he is still with us, I have never regretted that decision… I did however take the day of his funeral off as I felt in my own way it was paying my respects.
By: EGTC - 14th April 2012 at 16:10
Thats sad, Jim. I bet it must have been difficult.
I think something I could have done differently would have been when my grandad (he was my father figure as I grew up living with him) was in hospital. I visited him alot during his time there but then the nurses said that kids were no longer allowed to visit (I was 11 at the time) and that they had to wait in the day room. Their reason was that kids often bring in things like colds etc. Anyway, as grandad seemed to be making good progress I decided that rather than going to the hospital each evening from then on i’d wait at home until they either lifted the childs ban or my grandad came home. 2 nights later at 1am my family got a call to say that he had taken a turn for the worse and they should go and see him. So they did (although I was asleep at home so my dad came round to lookafter me) and he died a few hours later early in the morning on May 9th 1996. If I could have done things differently, I would have gone there on those last 2 days because I would have still been able to say hello and bye each time, but would have had to spend the rest of the time in the day room, which in all fairness, seems like it would have been worth it now.
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