A subject that is quite close to my heart.
I too lost a partner to a terminal illness. Aged 22.

On my medical records, there is a short paragraph to the effect that, “if in the event of permanent brain damage or injury, resulting in severe or total loss of faculties – DNR.” (I forget the exact wording).

..If you can read it without wanting to kill them both and burn down their palaces you are better people than I…

No. That is exactly the way I felt.

Moggy, I am sorry for your loss. And thank you for posting those links.