There seems to be a lot of folks here, who have been/ are divorced. Is it a case of the grass is greener etc,what has been the major cause. Just how much is a divorce these days?.

Lincoln .7

Marriage 1. Too young, plain and simple. At 21. IMO ones feelings/desires/tastes/tolerances/preferences change every 2 years at that age. If partner isn’t changing in same direction, there’s no chance.
Marriage 2. The flair went. OK, it could have been rescued, but I felt stiffled and in a rut.
This marriage works because it is the opposite of the above.
We get on very very well and still laugh a lot. This is such a secret which most people lose.
Luckily, after two perfect healthy kids she still has the body of a 21 year old (My 6 pack has gone but I aint fat!) so there is plenty of flair, lust etc. This is very very important in a relationship, no matter how shallow some people think it is. If the nookie isn’t right, it is a barometer of plenty of other things that are wrong.