Best method of air-to-air refueling

usaf f16/15/22/b2/f117 do not have a refueling probe, the
tanker inserts a probe into the fuel slot on the feeder usually
along the upper dorsal behind cockpit.

USN f18/14/E6 have probes. EU a/c Mirages, Tornadoes, Rafale
have probes. Russian a/c have probes. could be fixed or folding.

Which method is better for

(a) ease of use in adverse conditions (night, winds)
(b) fuel transfer rate
(c) number of babies suckling in parallel (probes can manage 3)

the lack of probe no doubt reduces weight of fighter by a few
Kg maybe 20kg?