Typical stubborn woman eh? I don’t like to walk away from a problem if there is a chance, however remote, that I can find a solution.
Well I guess that there are different ways of looking at things, but personally, I’d rather regret things that I did as opposed to regretting the things I didn’t do.
My situation. Well two failed relationships. First one, we met young and had two children young…possibly too young, she wanted to part and I didn’t, but it takes two to make it work so we went our separate ways. However we never lost sight of the most important consideration – the children. As a result, we have a great friendship now that has been built on both of us wanting the best for our children. We speak regularly and have two well adjusted, well mannered teenage children.
The second….well she just turned out to be a nutter and I walked away. Financially that was bad for me, but there are some things in life that are more important than money. When it comes to the point that you are so unhappy that your friends and family notice the change in you and wonder what’s up then it’s time to seriously consider what you are doing.
And now…well now I am in a place that I could never have thought I would be 2 years ago. I have someone who I love dearly, shares the same interests as me – Heck, she’ll even brave a cold Aberdeen winters afternoon to come along and watch me playing Rugby !! My friends and family remark on how nice it is to have the “Old me” back and I feel better than I have for a long time. I consider ourselves lucky, we both have the advantage of being that little bit older (perhaps wiser though we will muck around like kids at times )and both now know what we want out of life.
So when it comes to regretting things…well had I not walked away from my second relationship, no matter how scary or debilitating the implications were at the time, I would not be enjoying the happiness that I do now. Sometimes you just have to take the first step, no matter how daunting it may appear !!
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