i know many single parent families

Oo-err! That’s a little like the old patronising Tory claim that ‘some of my best friends are gay’, or something akin to ‘I know a black man so I can’t be racist’.

In fact isn’t the use of similar pronouncements a little like that rule about you losing your argument if you bring Hitler in to it…?;o)

Not pointing the finger, just mentioning.

HMS Cardiff.

Ah yes. The Blue-on-Blue Type 42…
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1982_British_Army_Gazelle_friendly_fire_incident

How about a slightly more practical way of thinking.Why would she want to bring a child into the world without a father.Okay it is his sperm,it is 10 years old and the child will never know the donor.What happens in the future when the mother either finds another partner or the child grows up without the father figure.
There’s enough unstable single parent families as it is.
I feel sorry for her loss but bringing a child into the world in these circumstances does NOT make a fantasy wish come true.

P.S She needs to move on and get on with HER life ,not his.

Who on earth are we to give her advice?
What training have we had that allows us to demand that she should let something, a reminder of her most loved one, the opportunity to have the fruit of his loins blossom (ugh!) into a child, a living connection to him, allow that possibility to be destroyed.

Maybe she will never use that sperm. It might just be a fall back, something to comfort her, a security blanket if you like. But to tell someone that she needs to get over it, to get on with her life, is hugely insensitive.

About 16 years too late. She was gone by the end of 1999…

The dreaded social media, Snafu – there you can see what’s going on. And read your history and you’ll understand my comment.

And…? I mean, despite their political bias, at least a news provider has history and some form of legal obligation behind it – even if it just means that Piers Morgan is no longer editor of the Daily Mirror.

Yes, there will be some vids out there which are genuine and news worthy BUT there will be quite a few easily made fakes because, unlike in the movies, it is so damned difficult to get footage that tells the story. The true story. The story that is happening in several places at once and needs a narrative because otherwise it is just a bunch of people either dancing or protesting (and there are quite a few clubs in Ibiza where you can get the same effect even without the assistance of dodgy pills).
And nobody really investigates those stories that appear on Youtube and so on. Why? Because it can be difficult tracking down the camera man, pinning down the facts and finding witnesses who can verify the events.
How many doubted that video of the marines shooting that wounded Afghan dead, claimed it was fake before claiming that ‘if’ it was real then he deserved it anyway?

I suppose social media can be a great thing (I don’t use it, since I waste too much time on computers anyway) but it is not the greatest thing. Traditional journos get trained to question and investigate whilst the new accountants – sorry, I mean media executives – just want to cut the penny’s and enjoy getting something for nothing.

Charlie, which history? Point me in the right direction since obviously what you know and understand and what I know and understand is just telling me you are wrong…;o)

Will you listen to yourselves?
Maybe she isn’t in a place (mentally) where she feels it right to bring her late husbands child into the world yet.
The trauma of losing a partner is bad enough, without having to make decisions about whether to use or lose his sperm when you are not ready.