Ultra Strict parents

Well I was able to get him out for a bit this afternoon.

Me and a couple of other tuck him for a quick pint and game of pool.

His parents thought he was at work once dropped off he stood around till the drove off then we got him back their 10 mins before they came to collect him.

It was nice to see him have a bit of fum but it ****ed me off in a way cause it shows how much he has been made to miss out on.

Nope not gonna use fireworks on them wonder what Noel Tobin would say anyway.

I cannot say a lot about what has been decided but its good news and when I can I will post more info for you.

Well done you.

It seems that you cannot explain further at the moment. That’s OK, but as soon as you can, please do, as we are all rooting for you and your friend.

I hope your plans do not include tying fireworks to his parents!

Well today went well.

I have talked to a few people about this and we have got something sorted out to hopefully help a bit.

This is however not all going to be solved overnight but its a step in the right direction.

Thanks for all the advice everyone.

Good luck.

Flood.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I am going to be talking to a few people 2morow to try and get something started to help my M8.

🙂 @ Janie

That’s very kind of you, Ashley.

Andrew…some very wise words from Janie there, some sound advice for you.

I can’t help wondering if the parents have lost a child previously, and are doing all they can to avoid losing the one they still have? Still, doesn’t excuse some of their behaviour.

As I said, listen to the wise lady above (Janie, not Mrs God 😉 :p)

Ashley

Has your M8 got any brothers or sisters? I know what it is like to have overbearing parents, but my sister and I turned out to be at oppostite ends of the spectrum personality-wise.

If there is a sibling, I’m just wondering how they cope with the situation.

If he is an only child it may explain the over protection, partly.

My heart goes out to him. You’re a good man for being a friend to him. That’s the best thing he can have. Do you know what type of people his parents were hoping for him to mix with? Perhaps they are narrow-minded, hoping you may be doctor/lawyer/banker instead of a market stall holder. Get my drift?

One thing you can do is try to understand what the parents want, even if you totally disagree with them. Then be obscenely nice, so that they have absolutely no reason to complain about you. They they will develop a trust with you and will be happy for their son to mix with you. If you try to fight them (even if you are in the right) you will always lose.

Ha – if only Snapper had a swear box…;)

Flood.

Originally posted by Snapper
Don’t swear young man.

Snapper shouldn’t you be in bed instead of telling silly thing on this forum ?? 😀 🙂

You can understand that sort of overbearing parental control in certain cultures, but not English

Not that that should make any difference, of course.

Flood.

Steve they are English.

Before we all condem them, what nationality are they

Seems these patens have a ****ed off life. Probably they failed in everything they want to achieve, are so frustrated right now, and want to hide their own problems through their son.

Sometimes you don’t realise how easy your own life is when compared to others, even in your own country.
Just thought – also try the Citizens Advice Bureau who might be able to point him in the right direction. But it is your friend who has to take the plunge – you cannot push him into it.

Flood.

Thanks for a useful post flood 🙂

The person I am trying to help is 20 this persons parents got the police out to my 18 year old M8.

Anyway I did consider calling the police after they had a go at me however the incident that got them going after me was weird heres what happened.,

When I first got to know them I told them about our market stalls and they came along one day.

I was doing the shouting and was really going for it showing off to be honest but thats not the point.

Next day they are back and went mental saying their son had been trying to do what I was and had lost his voice for a couple of hours.

They said they would call out noise control and would kick the **** out of me if I do any more shouting as its dangerous.

This did not scare me however it does make me see how nasty and mucked up they are.

I also feel responsible as he now wants to do the same job as me his parents wont let him and went mad one night at him saying he will never do anything they don’t like and thats it.

Its like he has seen what he wants from his life but his parents wont let him and he is afraid to try and get away from them.

I’d just like to add my support to Floods excellent advice.