Marriage…

Well, as most couples will happily split as soon as it (Life/relations) get difficult, marriage makes no differerence these days.
There was a time when it did mean commitment, that you did work stuff out and learn from it. As it no longer means that, and people are prepared to walk away from a marriage as if it was just another relationship ending…..then one can see the point of not doing it.

However, Marriage shows both families that you are serious about each other, not like the hundreds of floozies from the past. It shows each other that this is different and special.
But, it has become a stupid race to make it very expensive. Tens of thousands of £ expensive FFS. If you do go for marriage, then spend as little as possible and use the money on a brilliant honeymoon and/or deposit for a home.
If you plan for kids, the most important thing EVER is that the parents remain as Mum and Dad. Married or not, and always preferably together.
And don’t do any of it until you are about 26 years old!! See the world, screw it all, live life while your body/bones and wallet can!
You may have also decided by then exactly what you want from another person and learnt not to settle for 2nd best because there’s nothing else around at the time.
Then have the kids before her body gets old and her alarm clock starts ringing 😉

I’ve on wife 3 child 6. This ones a keeper. In fact, it’s already broken the longevity record!

… but Mrs Bee, there is the chance that one of us may see Mr Bee at Duxford some time 😀

I`m not realy for it my self unless there are children involved, but I dont want them either :rolleyes:

Did your housemate divulge exactly these others forms of commitment? Joint Bank Account? Same Car Insurance? … :rolleyes:

I think that you’ll get different answers depending on the age of the person.

When my husband and I got married in 1971 living together just wasn’t an option,mainly because if we’d considered it our mothers would have killed us with their bare hands.Actually the idea never occurred to us,because we grew up firmly believing that if you wanted to live together and have children,then you got married first.

Attitudes have changed radically in the last forty years. My daughter who’s 22 doesn’t see any real reason to get married at all,and isn’t worried about couples deferring their wedding until the children are old enough to be bridesmaids and pageboys.

Personally,I like the idea of making a legal commitment to each other,and if I ever found myself single again ( and I so nearly put in the happy position of being single again – Mr. Bee doesn’t read this :diablo: ),then I wouldn’t feel at all comfortable just living with someone.