How about a slightly more practical way of thinking.Why would she want to bring a child into the world without a father.Okay it is his sperm,it is 10 years old and the child will never know the donor.What happens in the future when the mother either finds another partner or the child grows up without the father figure.
There’s enough unstable single parent families as it is.
I feel sorry for her loss but bringing a child into the world in these circumstances does NOT make a fantasy wish come true.
P.S She needs to move on and get on with HER life ,not his.
Who on earth are we to give her advice?
What training have we had that allows us to demand that she should let something, a reminder of her most loved one, the opportunity to have the fruit of his loins blossom (ugh!) into a child, a living connection to him, allow that possibility to be destroyed.
Maybe she will never use that sperm. It might just be a fall back, something to comfort her, a security blanket if you like. But to tell someone that she needs to get over it, to get on with her life, is hugely insensitive.
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