Heaven forbid that anyone should ever suggest it might have something to do with parenting skills, or the lack thereof.

Exactly – I and my classmates were all provided with a perfectly good sex education at school – what went where, what did what, and what happened consequently :diablo:

It was my parents who drilled into me the implications of having sex – i.e. getting pregnant, and that getting pregnant at such a young age would a) screw up one’s education, and b) leave one no longer footloose and fancy free but responsible for a young child (and that sure as hell is no minor responsibility.

I’m not sure who I’d like to slap first – the mother of the three premature spawners, or the three lovely ladies themselves. I really do think that too many people (and not just teenagers too) do not seriously think through the consequences of having children –

i) the emotional impact – life is no longer just about you, but your child too, and in my humble opinion until your children reach adulthood, that’s the way it should be.

ii) the financial impact – particularly for the likes of these young girls – oh hang on, what AM I talking about? The state will support them ~slap to head~ That’s all right then :rolleyes:

I am 26 and have been married for three years in September. Recently I have had a growing number of people say to me “so when are you going to have a baby then?”, or “isn’t it about time we were hearing the pitter patter of tiny feet from you? or “is there something wrong with you? Why haven’t you had children yet?” AAAAAAAAAAAAARGH!!! The threat of the sound of my hand pitter pattering across people’s faces usually does the trick 😉 Sometimes my thoughts turn idly towards the prospect of having children and the thought does not traumatise like it did up until a couple of years ago when life took an unexpected twist and turned my thinking upside down, but then I think “am I emotionally ready for this?” “Are WE emotionally ready for this”, and the answer is no – this may well sound selfish, but I am very happy it being just my husband and myself at the moment – and so is he. Neither of us can imagine bringing a third person into the equation at the moment as we feel it would change the balance of our relationship, and we are not at a point in our lives together where we wish to change that balance. This forward thinking on our part is sadly so often not considered by so many people out there, who have a child and then realise that they shouldn’t have done (I have a friend who has done exactly this, and I could slap her into oblivion for it because it is just not fair on her child)

Ummmm I digress 😮 Having said all that, is there really a right or a wrong time to have children? Well I certainly think anyone under 18,19, having a child is a fool – be a child, be a teenager, then be an adult – enjoy these phases of your life – get the best you can out of life, make the most of the opportunities available to you. Think things through…

Easily solved by requiring the complaining member to give you their password so that you can read the PM for yourself, verify it and then give the member the nod so that they can change their password afterwards.

That would work (I had thought of it as a suggestion, but thought if I as a mod suggested it, there would be at least one person around here to have a fit at the thought :diablo: )

It’s obvious to any civilised person that threats of violence should be met with instant and permanent banning. I don’t see how such an obviously distasteful act can need this length of time to discuss.

When the threat is made publically I agree no question. The only concern I have with threats made by PM is as suggested in my previous thread is the potential for some members to “make out” that they have been threatened by amending a PM (and believe me there are certain members around that I think would do that, but none I would consider to be a friend)

Hi Kev 🙂

Frank put your query to the moderators’ on the Mod’s forum. My response was that threats of physical violence should not be tolerated if made publically or privately, and that a warning should be issued to the person that made that threat.

Another mod pointed out that us mods can only see PM’s that are forwarded to us, which obviously means that an e-mail could be altered before we see it (Please don’t think for ONE minute that I am suggesting you would do this, if you say another member threatened you physically in a PM then I believe without a doubt that is what happened – and if anyone wants to take issue with me believing this, then my answer to you is that I consider Kev to be a good friend off screen as well as on, and I know he is not the sort of person make something like this up)

Becka

Happy Birthday Martin! 🙂

Is the anthology ‘The New Poetry’ one by any chance?

~Shudder~

I remember that blinkin’ onion poem well…

~Back to perusing two weeks worth of forum stuff ;)~

I’ve given up trying to make sense of it all babe, there is simply no answering some questions in life sadly 🙁

Best wishes to that person dear to you, fingers crossed here.

Well done Melv! 😀

Now when are you coming to Duxford? 😉