35 years ago I faced the same dilemma. He was a strong minded fellow who was very close to his daughter. I asked that same question expecting the worst outcome, but knew I had to stand as firm as he. I asked him for his approval, not permission. I had to show him that I was not going to back down and slink away if he had said no.
After we got over the ‘you are not good enough for my daughter’ routine, and he realised that I was as even minded or as strong willed as him, he settled on the approval. Make no mistake, I suffered the ‘your not good enough’ blah blah for the next 26 years. He and I had a fairly tempestuous relationship, but but I think deep down he respected the fact that I was in it for the long run, and that I was the best choice as a son in law.
My wife and I have been together for 35 years. We are happy together regardless of family on both sides. There has never been a better saying than ‘you can choose your friends but cannot choose your family’ It is your lives that count, Marry her and ignore the rest.
One last humourous quote, ‘Marriage is like a bank account, the more you invest in it, the less interest you get!🙂
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